the fear you fear to loose

We are all scared , everyone one of us felt fear before it is so common and repetitive that in a way it becomes a habit and like any other habit when you stop doing it you start feeling bad. Have you ever had the though that something bad will happen after having a really good day , have you ever worried about how tomorrow is going to be because of how good today was, sometimes even we start to fear loosing  after winning , fear dying in the day we really feel alive. we fear to loose fear cause we got really used to it.

To overcome this you need to focus on the NOW , the present moment nothing else not the past nor the future just be in the NOW with all your senses cause that’s the only thing you really have, past can’t be changed and the future doesn’t exist!

Yes it doesn’t and it is very simple  let’s say your have a meeting after 1 hour – The future – it doesn’t happen till you start the meeting – the NOW – if you couldn’t make it to the meeting due to any given reason so the future you knew changed as it didn’t exist from the beginning. the future is just an imaginary idea in your brain about what the next NOW would look like and when you imagine that something bad might happen you embrace fear , but if it is just an imaginary thought in your mind means you can control it , then make it a good one and a positive one , of course it won’t change something bad that might happen and it wont solve the problem but at least it will not make the NOWthe only thing you have the only fact that you know for sure – bad till what is going to happen happens and becomes the new NOW

when i think of this I think a doctor telling a patient that he is going to die after few days , so the patient starts getting scared thinking about that moment of death and how awful it would feel , starts regretting the things and decisions he made in the past , thinks if there is life after death he is so deep in the future and forgets the NOW he went to death before it came to him , I know anyway he will die being positive wont stop it but at least I would have made him enjoy the remainder of the time he had the NOW wold have been different.

Never sacrifice the NOW the only fact you know and have for a later NOW that you don’t know yet you will just loose both of them.

Today was yesterday’s future and will be tomorrow’s past , look at today and think about how you thought about it and planned for it yesterday and you will see my point.

it is nonsense to worry about things that doesn’t exist and future doesn’t as it exists only when it happens and if it happens it is NOW not the future .

If you want to really affect the future and make it the best it could be , there is only one way to do so i too really make the best of the present the NOW if you waste it on thinking and worrying you wont be able to get the best of it which would definitely hurt your future , that’s exactly how the fear of loosing becomes the reason you loose cause it uses your energy so it stops you from getting better

Live everyday as it is you last day , feel it was all your senses focus on the journey not the destination and you will be happier than ever and I assure you it will change everything.

” the enemy is fear. We think it is hate , but it is  fear ” – Gandhi

 

 

Advertisements

Morality : what is good ? what is bad ?

We learn from our parents and we teach our kids that there is things we should do and things we shouldn’t , that this behavior is good but this is bad , we have to ask ourselves first what is good and what is bad how do we know and how to decide.

This question about what is moral had many philosophers thinking about it even now a days scientists do try to figure it out , some say that it comes from religion some say it comes with human experience during the course of evolution and human history as we became more experienced in life and how to live together and so we created a code of morality to live by.

In this article what i am trying to tackle with is not the origin of morality – this we will talk  about in another article – but the way how I think we should consider what is right and what is wrong , it all depends on the question why ?? 

Why your are doing an action is what  makes it right or  wrong even it is the same action , nothing is right all the time or wrong all the time it depends on why you are doing it  many will argue that whats good or bad depends on it’s consequences if it leads to a good result  it is good if it leads to a bad result it is bad well that is not the case lets imagine that I lied to you about something to put you in trouble ( That is my intention ) but i was wrong and it worked well for you ( that’s the result ) it will still be wrong and bad because my intention was to put you in trouble

Moses Others will argue that morality comes from religion but the problem in religion that it says that  things are objective but that is simply wrong , religion says that thou shalt not kill – in any case  under any circumstances – that is simply wrong we all know that if a cop is killing a terrorist    carrying a bomb and about to detonate himself  killing other hundreds of people in order  to stop him  from doing it can not be  wrong  ,that’s absolutely right he saved many souls I   know what you  are thinking right now that  from the point of view of the terrorist he is doing  the right thing so  if as i say morality depends on the intention and it is subjective then the  terrorist is as well right ,  but no because the terrorist is bombing people  which he thinks  according  to his believes must die because they follow another religion and he is certain that they are all going to hell but killing them will take him straight to heaven so that is a selfish act , the intention of  his action is that he will gain something which he is preventing the others from having it because maybe if  he let them to live more they can find their way to his god then he doesn’t need to kill them ,  actually by the terrorist doing so more souls will go to hell and only his goes to heaven – of course we are talking from his point of view – so even from his prospective and beliefs instead of bringing this people to his god taking them to heaven with him he was so lazy so he used the guaranteed way for him to reach heaven and he didn’t care about others going to hell,  he did a selfish act which is a bad intention therefor it makes his action wrong and from my point of view this applies on everything  we can think of regarding the subject of morality. ( but this opens a new question why selfishness is wrong from the first place , this we will discuss further in following articles )

 

verdictLets think of another example to make things more interesting if a judge sentences someone to death but that man happens to be innocent in this case the judge is right or wrong ? Exactly it depends if  he knew that the man is innocent or no before he decided it depends on his intention , but at the end an innocent man died that is not fair that’s not Just , unfortunately we are human we have limited abilities and knowledge no matter how hard we try we can get so near to perfection but we will never reach it in order to punish the guilty some innocents will be sacrificed that’s the ugly truth  . ( in upcoming articles we will talk more about what is Justice and if our system is achieving it or not ) .

 

parent-yelling One more example a father who decided to punish his kids in a very strict way  when  they do something wrong and to be very though and aggressive to them , in his mind  this is the best way to raise his kids , he loves them too much so he thinks that being  though on them will prepare them and make them stronger while facing this unfair and  unjust life waiting for them when they get older , his intentions are good even though it  affected his kids badly but on my scale of morality he is not a bad person he is just  ignorant and stupid but as long as he didn’t do it in purpose to hurt them then this man  is not a bad man but a man that we all wish that he got a better education so he can    learn the best way to raise his kids

 

My theory about morality that it all depends at the same exact moment of the action itself and it is not related to the past that led to it or the future consequences that will occur because of it , it totally depends on your intention while doing the action on the exact present moment of doing it .

 

There is endless possibilities and scenarios ,  please if you have any scenario in your  mind post it in a comment and let us discuss if this theory will apply to it  or not.